The miracle of heart centered counseling is the power of love
and gratefulness ~ for when your heart is awakened through love and
gratefulness, you not only want to heal but you also know or at least sense
your next step in the self-healing process: Allen L Roland
I
have proven in my own personal experience as well as my over 35 years as a
heart centered therapist and counselor that the basic underlying and uniting
force of the universe is a psychic energy field of love and soul consciousness
( the Unified Field ) which lies not only beyond time
and space but ALSO beneath our deepest fears.
As
such, the supposition must be made that what lies deepest within us is not
anger and pain but instead love, joy and
a state of soul consciousness.
Time
after time in my heart centered counseling, with both veterans and civilians, I
find that once they realize that they have loved people deeply in the past and
recognize that these people were and are still gifts in their quest to find
themselves ~ the magic of self-healing begins,
aided by dreams and all sorts of unforeseen events which happen to accelerate
that process.
The
point must be made here on the basis of
accumulated research and studies that the pain of feeling unloved and alone or
abandoned is the most awesome pain that can be humanly experienced and
obviously is capable of bringing forth hypothalamic reactions which affect our
well-being and physical health.
Thus,
it would appear that the pain of not feeling loved for oneself or feeling
seemingly alone and abandoned is of such deep psychic proportions that death
would occur unless we consciously separated from our feelings and our intuitive
right brain connection to soul consciousness ~ in order to survive.
It
would also seem logical at this point that ego consciousness
(ego-defense, manipulation of the environment, control and
self-protection) become more important for survival than soul consciousness
(sensitivity, receptivity to the environment as well as our deepest urge to
love and unite).
In
Robert Ornstein's THE NATURE OF HUMAN CONSCIOUSNESS, Michael Gazzaniga comments
on the appearance of this left brain dominance at an early age:
"
In the young child, each hemisphere of the brain is about equally developed
with respect to language and speech function. We are, thus, faced with the
interesting question of why the right hemisphere at an early age and state of
development possesses substantial language capacity whereas , at a more adult
age it possesses a rather poor capacity. The implication is that during
maturation, the processes and systems active in making this capacity manifest
are somehow inhibited and dismantled in the right hemisphere and allowed to
reside only in the left hemisphere. "
What
actually happens, because of psychic pain, is that our true authentic self, and with it the
feeling, intuitive - receptive right brain and its connection to
the Unified Field goes into hibernation within
the ego's protective cocoon.
There is little doubt that it is at this point that hypothalamic reactions are
triggered which literally halt our emotional growth ~ for the biological
clock is located in the feeling circuits of the brain.
Remember,
that the ego is a projection of what we feel we have to be versus who we really
are ~ it is not born from joy but instead
from pain and aloneness and usually as an
only choice ~ and it is eventually meant to be shed.
In
other words, psychic pain overrides our original joyful state of soul
consciousness caused by the seeming separation from love ~ and emotionally we
stop growing. That is where the lost inner child resides waiting to be
unconditionally loved ~ waiting until it's safe to come out from its cocoon of
fear. We externalize this inner quest in
relationships ( usually re-creating our
original separation scenario) but what we are really after is our true
authentic self.
Ann McCoy's Lunar Birth
I'm
the classic example of this phenomenon in that my heart closed when I was taken
away from my beloved grandfather at 6 years old.
The psychic pain of that event overrode my joy, my heart closed and my
protective ego went into place as I became whatever I had to be in order to be
loved. Only when I eventually fully
opened my heart and faced and went through my deepest fears and pain ~ did I
find that lost child within myself and along with it my original state of love, joy and soul consciousness, that lies beyond time and space (
the Unified Field ) and along with it, my part in a universal loving plan.
This
is why most people are not afraid of their pain, most people are living in pain
~ what most people are afraid of is their deep joy because they feel it will
eventually be taken away ~ as it seemingly was as a child.
Those
who I love deeply will leave me ~ a common universal fear, which was
once mine, until I fully opened my heart and conquered that fear in the
process.
The
miracle of my heart centered counseling is that I can see through the heart,
beneath their pain and actually see the lost child within my client who just
wants to not only be seen ~ but to be re-connected
to their deepest joy, intention, purpose as
well as their original state of soul
consciousness. Gratefulness is the
lifeblood of that state of consciousness and
I utilize that from their very first session.
This
transformation can happen in as little as seven
sessions by first,
having them see their life as a quest
versus a struggle,
then take accountability for their own pain and the decisions that they alone
made to be controlled by fear and most importantly thank the people who have
been there for them during their lives ~
for gratefulness is the lifeblood of soul consciousness.
Thus, they begin the rapid transit from ego
consciousness to their original state of soul consciousness and the eventual
realization that their life is being inner guided ~ as mine most certainly is.
Dreams
become incredibly important during this self-healing process for they are
indeed messages from the soul meant to be enlisted in the process of peeling away
the layers of the ego. But they are also constant reminders that the answers
are within ~ if we will but listen and respond.
The near death experience, as such, is a joyful state of soul consciousness and the long dark tunnel that many NDEers experience is the rapid transit through ego consciousness towards the light of the love, joy and soul consciousness deepest within ourselves ~ the Unified Field .
During
my transformation counseling, message dreams, unforeseen important events and the miracles of self-healing accelerate because
the heart driven are guided by their true destiny ~ whereas the ego driven are
guided by a fear-based and spiritually desolate destiny.
As
such, I am, in reality, their coach until they meet the real coach,
themselves.
Nothing
could be more spiritually rewarding than retrieving and empowering lost souls ~
and it is clearly the work that my life's path prepared me for.
As
such, the miracle of heart centered counseling is, in essence, the power of
love and gratefulness ~ without which no true self-healing can occur.
Allen
L Roland
Freelance Alternative Press Online columnist and psychotherapist Allen L Roland is available for comments, interviews, speaking engagements and private Skype consultations ( allen@allenroland.com )
Allen
L Roland is a practicing psychotherapist, author and
lecturer who also shares a daily political and social commentary on his web log and website allenroland.com
He also guest hosts a monthly national radio show TRUTHTALK on www.conscioustalk.net
