Death is inevitable but when it suddenly takes away a young shining
light, as it did my granddaughter Kaitlyn through a tragic accident, it is an
instant reminder that we are all put here a little time to sing our song and
bear the beams of love: Allen L Roland
Death is a tall dark stranger ~ who always arrives when you
least expect it.
Its cold forbidding presence rides on the chariot of the
unknown.
However, beneath its
ominous gray shroud beats an all encompassing heart for death is but a passage
within a loving plan in action ~ a loving plan that exists beyond time and
space ~ a flimsy curtain between our present
reality and a state of soul consciousness ( the Unified Field
) that is hidden from us until we raise that curtain of fear.
Thus those who we love deeply not only live in our hearts
but become part of us forever ~ as my late granddaughter Kaitlyn most certainly
lives in my heart.
When I
first heard last week of her tragic accidental death from my tearful son ~ I
felt as if a light had just gone out in the small galaxy of my loved ones ~ and at only 22 years old.
I really
did not know her that well for she was born in 1990 in Washington
state and after my daughter went through a painful divorce ~ she lived with her
dad’s family in the Spokane
area.
I saw her
less than five times in her brief time on this planet but I was always touched
by her radiant spirit and light. The Tri-city
Herald reaffirmed this spirit in their news story last week ; “
Current and former members of the Heatwave Dance Team at Southridge High School
gathered Tuesday to remember one of their own who was killed in an accident in
Spokane.
Rebstock, 22, died early Tuesday, and by afternoon, word spread to classmates and friends who came to the school to share their memories and their loss.
"A lot of the kids (from her class) are back from college and they all wanted to be together," Stiles told the Herald. "She impacted so many people."
Spokane police said it appeared Rebstock returned home from work about midnight and parked her car at the top of a steep driveway.
Police believe the car rolled backward and Rebstock was pinned underneath when she tried to stop it.
She died at the scene, said the Spokane Medical Examiner's Office.
Rebstock graduated from Southridge in 2008 and made the honor roll several times, Herald archives showed.
She was a member of the Heatwave Dance Team, which won a state dance title as well as the 3A Division Hip Hop Dance title while Rebstock was on the team.
Her mother, Wendy White, and grandmother, Patty White, run The Dance Class studio in Richland.
Stiles said Rebstock was a leader who inspired and motivated her teammates and was well-loved by classmates.
"She was a beautiful girl. This is an incredible loss," Stiles said. "From 2004 to now, she has been a part of the school. That's a lot of Southridge students connected to her. She was an extremely talented, kind, giving girl."
Kaitlyn was
a dancer and when she danced she became a transcendent star whose light touched
everyone ~ she was obviously singing and
celebrating her own song.
In
that regard, we all have a song to sing and eventually true
happiness is defined by whether you are singing your own song or someone else's
song.
Most people
die with their music still locked up inside them because they never said yes to
themselves or allowed themselves to be
controlled by fear ~ but Kaitlyn was obviously saying
yes to herself.
Singing and
celebrating your own song is the ultimate act of love for in singing
your own song you become part of a divine chorus
which has been patiently waiting for your part ~ and,
in so doing, you’re in service from a place of celebration.
Kaitlyn
said yes to herself, sang and celebrated her song and made a difference before
she unexpectedly and tragically passed on ~ but I’m sure she is now dancing her
hip hop and spreading her magic in a much larger universal stage. For she is
now fully in a state of soul consciousness, that exists beyond time and space, and in a profound deep personal way
I feel even closer to her.
In
that spirit ~ here’s a two minute video of Kaitlyn performing with the Heat wave crazy
legs dance team at their homecoming game in 2010.
Allen L Roland
Freelance Alternative Press Online columnist
and psychotherapist Allen L Roland
is available for comments, interviews, speaking engagements
and private consultations ( allen@allenroland.com )
Allen L Roland is a practicing
psychotherapist, author and lecturer who also shares a daily political and
social commentary on his weblog
and website allenroland.com
He also guest hosts a monthly national radio show TRUTHTALK on www.conscioustalk.net
So sorry for your loss. May you find peace and solace in knowing she will live forever in your heart.
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Wow Allen I Am So Sorry!! How tragic and sudden. Thank you for posting the story I don't know how many times i walk behind my car not even thinking. I am going to warn my family. Sending you love and light.
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