MIRACLE OF HEART CENTERED COUNSELING IS SELF HEALING

 The miracle of heart centered counseling is the power of love and gratefulness ~ for when your heart is awakened through love and gratefulness, you not only want to heal but you also know or at least sense your next step in the self-healing process: Allen L Roland

I have proven in my own personal experience as well as my over 35 years as a heart centered therapist and counselor that the basic underlying and uniting force of the universe is a psychic energy field of love and soul consciousness ( the Unified Field ) which lies not only beyond time and space but ALSO beneath our deepest fears.

As such, the supposition must be made that what lies deepest within us is not anger and pain but instead love, joy and a state of soul consciousness.

Time after time in my heart centered counseling, with both veterans and civilians, I find that once they realize that they have loved people deeply in the past and recognize that these people were and are still gifts in their quest to find themselves ~ the magic of self-healing begins, aided by dreams and all sorts of unforeseen events which happen to accelerate that process.

The point must be made here on the basis of accumulated research and studies that the pain of feeling unloved and alone or abandoned is the most awesome pain that can be humanly experienced and obviously is capable of bringing forth hypothalamic reactions which affect our well-being and physical health.

Thus, it would appear that the pain of not feeling loved for oneself or feeling seemingly alone and abandoned is of such deep psychic proportions that death would occur unless we consciously separated from our feelings and our intuitive right brain connection to soul consciousness ~ in order to survive.

It would also seem logical at this point that ego consciousness  (ego-defense, manipulation of the environment, control and self-protection) become more important for survival than soul consciousness (sensitivity, receptivity to the environment as well as our deepest urge to love and unite).

In Robert Ornstein's THE NATURE OF HUMAN CONSCIOUSNESS, Michael Gazzaniga comments on the appearance of this left brain dominance at an early age:

" In the young child, each hemisphere of the brain is about equally developed with respect to language and speech function. We are, thus, faced with the interesting question of why the right hemisphere at an early age and state of development possesses substantial language capacity whereas , at a more adult age it possesses a rather poor capacity. The implication is that during maturation, the processes and systems active in making this capacity manifest are somehow inhibited and dismantled in the right hemisphere and allowed to reside only in the left hemisphere. "

What actually happens, because of psychic pain, is that our true authentic self, and with it the feeling, intuitive -   receptive right brain and its connection to the Unified Field goes into hibernation within the ego's protective cocoon. There is little doubt that it is at this point that hypothalamic reactions are triggered which literally halt our emotional growth ~ for the biological clock is located in the feeling circuits of the brain.

Remember, that the ego is a projection of what we feel we have to be versus who we really are ~ it is not born from joy but instead from pain and aloneness and usually as an only choice ~ and it is eventually meant to be shed.

In other words, psychic pain overrides our original joyful state of soul consciousness caused by the seeming separation from love ~ and emotionally we stop growing. That is where the lost inner child resides waiting to be unconditionally loved ~ waiting until it's safe to come out from its cocoon of fear. We externalize this inner quest in relationships ( usually re-creating our original separation scenario) but what we are really after is our true authentic self.

Ann McCoy's Lunar Birth

I'm the classic example of this phenomenon in that my heart closed when I was taken away from my beloved grandfather at 6 years old. The psychic pain of that event overrode my joy, my heart closed and my protective ego went into place as I became whatever I had to be in order to be loved. Only when I eventually fully opened my heart and faced and went through my deepest fears and pain ~ did I find that lost child within myself and along with it my original state of love, joy and soul consciousness, that lies beyond time and space ( the Unified Field ) and along with it, my part in a universal loving plan.

This is why most people are not afraid of their pain, most people are living in pain ~ what most people are afraid of is their deep joy because they feel it will eventually be taken away ~ as it seemingly was as a child.

Those who I love deeply will leave me ~ a common universal fear, which was once mine, until I fully opened my heart and conquered that fear in the process.

The miracle of my heart centered counseling is that I can see through the heart, beneath their pain and actually see the lost child within my client who just wants to not only be seen ~ but to be re-connected to their deepest joy, intention, purpose as well as their original state of soul consciousness. Gratefulness is the lifeblood of that state of consciousness and I utilize that from their very first session.

This transformation can happen in as little as seven sessions by first, having them see their life as a quest versus a struggle, then take accountability for their own pain and the decisions that they alone made to be controlled by fear and most importantly thank the people who have been there for them during their lives ~ for gratefulness is the lifeblood of soul consciousness.

Thus, they begin the rapid transit from ego consciousness to their original state of soul consciousness and the eventual realization that their life is being inner guided ~ as mine most certainly is.

Dreams become incredibly important during this self-healing process for they are indeed messages from the soul meant to be enlisted in the process of peeling away the layers of the ego. But they are also constant reminders that the answers are within ~ if we will but listen and respond.

The near death experience, as such, is a joyful state of soul consciousness and the long dark tunnel that many NDEers experience is the rapid transit through ego consciousness towards the light of the love, joy and soul consciousness deepest within ourselves ~ the Unified Field .

See article ~ http://www.veteranstoday.com/2012/11/05/near-and-after-death-experience-is-a-state-of-soul-consciousness-that-is-deepest-within-us-all/

During my transformation counseling, message dreams, unforeseen important events and the miracles of self-healing accelerate because the heart driven are guided by their true destiny ~ whereas the ego driven are guided by a fear-based and spiritually desolate destiny.

As such, I am, in reality, their coach until they meet the real coach, themselves.

Nothing could be more spiritually rewarding than retrieving and empowering lost souls ~ and it is clearly the work that my life's path prepared me for.

As such, the miracle of heart centered counseling is, in essence, the power of love and gratefulness ~ without which no true self-healing can occur.

Allen L Roland

http://allenlrolandsweblog.blogspot.com/2013/02/miracle-of-heart-centered-counseling-is.html

Freelance Alternative Press Online columnist and psychotherapist Allen L Roland is available for comments, interviews, speaking engagements and private Skype consultations ( allen@allenroland.com )

Allen L Roland is a practicing psychotherapist, author and lecturer who also shares a daily political and social commentary on his web log and website allenroland.com He also guest hosts a monthly national radio show TRUTHTALK on www.conscioustalk.net

MEMORIES OF MY MOM

My mother’s reoccurring dream and call.

Those who we love deeply become part of us forever for they live in our hearts, as my Mother most certainly lives in mine. We certainly had our issues but she was always there: Allen L Roland

Speaking as a psychotherapist, I can unequivocally say that virtually everyone has issues with their mother ~ think about it ~ it is the first great love of our life and the messages from it quite often resonate throughout our lives and especially our relationships.

But reflecting back now on my relationship with my late mother ~ one of the most endearing qualities of my mom was that she was always there. I still fondly remember walking home from school and the first thing I would say as I walked through the door of our home was “ Hi Mom, I’m home “

Mothers Day is very special to me as well as for countless others so here’s a brief backgrounder of Mothers Day and a short video tribute to activist mothers from the past and the present. Six minute video ~ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lSsdvcfqKxA

As Timothy Egan recently wrote in his online commentary from the New York Times entitled The Last Mother’s Day ~ “When the last of your parents dies, as Christopher Buckley wrote in his memoir, “Losing Mum and Pup,” you are an orphan. But you also lose the true keeper of your memories, your triumphs, and your losses. Your mother is a scrapbook for all your enthusiasms. She is the one who validates and the one who shames, and when she’s gone, you are alone in a terrible way.”

http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/10/the-last-mothers-day/?nl=todaysheadlines&emc=edit_th_20120511

My mother died suddenly and unexpectedly 25 years ago in Connecticut.   

She appeared sitting on my bed at that exact moment in

Sonoma, California ~ just as I was

falling asleep.

I could feel her deep love for me and she

whispered ~  "Allen, I know .. 

Allen, I know  " 

I fell asleep saying to myself ~ that can't be

my mother.

Two days later ~ I learned of her death

from my brother and I realized that I

had an after-death experience with

my mother.

Over 50% of Americans have had such an after-death

experience with a loved one ~ according

to Gallup.

My mother had read my Unified Field Theory

at least a month before she died ~

so she must have been telling me that

she now knew what I knew. 

The Unified Field is, in essence, a state of

love and soul consciousness that exists

not only beyond time and space but ALSO beneath our deepest fears. 

As such, it is entirely possible to experience someone you love after they have passed on and millions of Americans have had this experience ~ although they may be reluctant to share it with others.

This was an incredible act of love from my

mother and most certainly from beyond death and obviously

in a joyful state of soul consciousness. 

She actually looked young and happy when she was sitting on my bed.

When I went back to Boston for my mothers

funeral ~ I decided to share the loving

and joyful moments I experienced with my

mother during the Eulogy, including my after death experience with her.  

I remember lying outside my mothers door before

I could walk and wondering why my mother

was crying inside ~ and wanting somehow to

help her.

I remember sitting on my mothers lap for a picture

with my twin brother, at four years old, and realizing how extraordinarily beautiful my mother was ~ she looked

like Greta Garbo.

I remember the last time my mother spanked me

with a hairbrush when I was probably seven or

eight years old ~ the hairbrush broke in half

and we both burst into spontaneous laughter

that literally brought us to our knees.

I remember her playing the piano with myself

standing behind her ~ my hands on her shoulders  

while I sang the words of the old standards she

loved to play.

Songs like That Old Black Magic , As time goes by and

Danny Boy .

Those two songs are linked to my CD which is under BOOK & CD AUDIO on my website www.allenroland.com  plus another appropriate vocal by myself which is backed up by Scott Deturk and Mel Martin You are My Mother, Earth  

Those were magic moments and, in some ways, we bonded through the music we played and sang together. 

About ten years before she unexpectedly died she shared with me a reoccurring dream from childhood ~ which still haunted her. The dream was a young golden haired little girl running free in a meadow and laughing in total delight. I told her that the little girl was herself and the dream represented her deep desire to reconnect with that same childhood state of love, joy, delight and soul consciousness.

She said that it was too late for her ~ but the sad reality was that she was getting far too many secondary benefits for being a victim and martyr. In essence, she was afraid of the joy and delight deepest within herself and her deep unworthiness kept her from claiming it. 

So, obviously my most precious memory of my mother was when she came to me after she died ~ for it was only then that the shackles of her victimhood had finally been released ~ it was only then that I could truly experience her profound love for me ~ as well as her joyous need to share with me her new awareness of this state of love, joy and soul consciousness deepest within herself.  

Finally she was once again that blond haired little girl she longed to be, laughing and running free in that meadow "Allen, I know, Allen, I know " 

Allen L Roland

http://allenlrolandsweblog.blogspot.com/2012/05/memories-of-my-mom.html

Freelance Alternative Press Online columnist and psychotherapist Allen L Roland is available for comments, interviews, speaking engagements and private consultations ( allen@allenroland.com ) 

Allen L Roland is a practicing psychotherapist, author and lecturer who also shares a daily political and social commentary on his weblog and website allenroland.com He also guest hosts a monthly national radio show TRUTHTALK on  www.conscioustalk.net