As a licensed therapist, with over 40 year's experience of dealing with people’s deepest fears and anxieties, I can unequivocally state that the experience of surrendering to one’s deep and long repressed feelings of pain, alienation, aloneness and despair is almost always initially experienced as a dark tunnel of never-ending pain which leads to death ~ and must be avoided at all costs. However, it is only the ego and fear that gradually die in the well of grief while joy and a true sense of self emerge from hiding like a phoenix rising from the ashes. It is no different than being pulled into a black hole in space ~ except that the black hole is within ourselves but beneath it is the immense joy, intention and purpose of a Unified field of love and soul consciousness.
Just as Stephen Hawking has suggested that black holes in space may in essence become white holes at a point of singularity, where all notions of time and space break down ~ so I am claiming that at the end of the black hole of despair within ourselves ~ we also reach a point of singularity, where all notions of time and space break down and we become one with a Unified Field of unconditional love and soul consciousness.
I have experienced two after death experiences which would verify this phenomenon or state of consciousness that exists beyond time and space ~ both with people who I deeply loved. It's interesting to note that both of these people appeared joyful, youthful and obviously ego-less.
1. My own mother suddenly and unexpectedly died in 1987 a few months after reading my paper on the Unified Field. But she appeared to me at the moment of her death, some 3000 miles away, sitting on my bed and lovingly and joyfully saying these words to me ~ ” Allen , I Know, Allen I Know .. “ See article ~ http://www.veteranstoday.com/2012/05/12/memories-of-my-mom/