Thursday, May 26, 2016
In this dramatic tour de force, Schade recreates the tragic loss of his marine buddies by creating his fictionalized daughter Jessica being killed in an automobile accident before his horrified and anguished eyes;
" Where is God " he screamed as he cradled her tangled lifeless body in his arms. " Where is God " he demanded.
"It was the same plea he shouted decades before on the battlefields of Vietnam, when he held the dead or mutilated bodies of brother marines.
" Where is God ? " He sobbingly repeated, not exactly expecting an answer.
He suddenly heard a voice behind him ~ a stranger hoping to comfort him said, " She is with God," ~ Jacob did not respond, as he continued to stare down at his beloved daughter Jessica.
" How the hell do you know she is with God ~ why did God take her in the first place? She should be with me " ~ Jacob screamed.
The stranger ignored Jacob's anger, and bent down and wrapped his strong arms tenderly around both of them tearfully embracing them until the police and ambulance arrived.
Devastated by his young daughter's tragic death, Jacob is determined to find God to ask Him why He allowed this tragedy to occur. No longer sure where to find Him, or if God truly exists, Jacob travels through the 'Ancient Gates of Abraham' to wander across the contradictory and prejudiced roads within the Kingdom of Religious Confusion.
Repeatedly challenged to remain open-minded he engages religious leaders, devout followers, agnostics and atheists along passages as 'Born again Street', 'Fundamentalist Drive', 'Junction of the Majority', 'Path of Disbelief', and many more, in commonsense conversations to understand why their philosophy alone will lead him to God, or prove God's non-existence.
Yet the further he travels the more confused he becomes, and it is not until his arduous journey nears its end that he recognizes a culminating revelation - an insight he was not expecting to unearth."
We believe God transcends all time, is always among us and knows all things past, present and future ~ but was it possible that the stranger who comforted Jacob in his anguish over the loss of his daughter and wrapped his strong arms tenderly around both of them tearfully embracing them until the police and ambulance arrived was actually a manifestation of God.
And Jacobs sudden realization that he had never thanked that stranger was an indication that the God he was fervently searching for was always deepest within himself ~ for god only reveals itself to a grateful heart.
A fact I have proved and demonstrated in my work over the past 45 years ~ particularly with Combat Veterans with PTSD and in my book RADICAL THERAPY, SURRENDER TO LOVE AND HEAL YOURSELF IN SEVEN SESSIONS (not seven years).
The key to the Kingdom of Religious confusion is gratitude and self-forgiveness and Arthur Schade's book is an ambitious step toward the ultimate realization that the God we are all seemingly seeking resides within ourselves ~ within a Unified Field of love, joy and soul consciousness which resides not only beyond time and space but also beneath our deepest fears ~ as it most certainly did within the stranger who was there for Jacob and his daughter Jessica.
I have been that empathetic stranger many times in my work with combat Veterans with PTSD ~ for example, in one our Band of Brothers groups about a year ago, one of our Vietnam Veterans had recently lost his beloved aunt and was beside himself in grief.
I purposely sat next to him consoling him but also mentioned that he should celebrate the great gift his aunt was in his life and remember all the wonderful things about her versus grieving her. If he indeed began to celebrate her from a place of celebration and joy, reminding her that she still lived in his heart ~ she would make her presence known to him via a dream or vision and let him know that she was now at peace and still loved him deeply ~ much as my late mother did with me, the night she died in 1987. See http://www.veteranstoday.com/2012/05/12/memories-of-my-mom/
And that is precisely what happened to him for within two weeks, he told us about a recent vivid dream where she told him that she was now at peace and reminded him that she will always be living in his heart. He was now at peace himself and reflected that inner joy and inner peace of knowing that he is still loved.
That incident was a wonderful reminder that those who we love deeply become part of us forever ~ for they are now in a Unified Field of love and soul consciousness that exists beyond time and space ~ just as my mother, grandfather and late twin will always live in my heart forever.
But that incident could also be interpreted as blasphemous or the work of the devil by the religious right ~ as has been mentioned to me many times.
I have also been Jacob ~ broken by unforeseen events to the point of hopelessness and despair and at just the right moment, a stranger appeared, helped me and took me by the hand and said "Everything is going to be all right " and I knew God had intervened much as Jacobs stranger.
But I also later sought that stranger out and thanked him for being there for me which is why this great truth has been revealed to me. For to me, God is love, an evolutionary process with which we all participate as co-creators.
I am also indebted to Arthur Schade for this important informative and moving book as well as providing a much needed reminder that we no longer have to look outside for God, for God lies deepest within ourselves and will only reveal itself to a grateful heart.
Monday, May 23, 2016
Oliver Stone / Filmmaker
Oliver Stone just gave the ultimate commencement address at the University of Connecticut and it was remarkable for both its candor and cold hard truth ~ for what the average college graduate of today will most likely be facing in our interconnected world is that the ultimate gift they are searching for may just be the act of finding themselves and making a difference: Allen L Roland, PhD
"I am done with great things and big things and great institutions and big successes, and I am for those tiny invisible molecular moral forces that work from individual to individual, creeping through the crannies of the world like so many rootlets or like the capillary oozing water, yet which, if you give them time , will bend the hardest monuments of human pride," ~ William James
Key excerpts from Oliver Stone's address;
" But the truth for me was that Yale was so incredibly difficult academically, and competitive in all things, that my 4 gruelling years of preparation at a boys’ boarding school in Pennsylvania were not sufficient to compete. And the freedom given by the College was far too liberal for my discipline. Basically, all of a sudden, we were on our own ~ study when you want; eat, sleep when you want; do what you want. Go to New York City for a week, it doesn’t matter. No one really cares as long as you pass the course. That was the point, no one cared, there was no headmaster around to scare the shit out of you. I barely survived the first year, failed Greek, and just made it through the most abstract course I ever had ~ Economics. And after trying, I also failed to make any of the serious athletic teams. I was just another mediocrity and I quit school, shaken and depressed
I think, more importantly, I couldn’t stand any longer the air of Ivy League superiority and competition. There was a lack, essentially, of humanity ~ a compulsive need to out-do your fellow man. I wanted something gentler, something like I’d seen in Asia, an ability simply to breathe a natural life. So I abandoned school once again, but it was clear this time there was no going back. In fact, I’d failed every single one of my courses. That’s pretty hard to do, 4 out of 4 zeros.
I had no real skills or earning power. I decided I had nothing to lose, so I’d join the Army, specifically the Infantry, and go to the front lines in Vietnam. And if it was intended by the Greek gods, or the monotheistic God from the Bible ~ either way ~ I was putting it on the line. The divine forces would cast their decision, and I’d either live or die.
After 15 months of… let’s say another kind of world, I went back to the US with no idea of what to do and no skills except camping, surviving, hunting, and not sleeping very well ~ all those (coming Home) fantasies died on the return, and my buddies went to other small towns and rarely did we see each other again. This reality, along with something we didn’t know much about at the time, since called PTSD, left us each in some dark holes. People simply didn’t understand because that war was crazy and made no sense. How can you explain it when it makes no sense?
After months of low-level depression, an old school friend who’d graduated from Yale was pursuing a career making low-budget porno films ~ and making money at it; he told me I could actually go to one of these new “film schools”, and I could get 80% of my tuition paid from the GI Bill.
But it was really a vocational school for me. I was older than the others. It was difficult for me to readjust to the mentality. I was quiet and didn’t mingle much. These students were in another world, and they probably looked at me like I was the guy in “Taxi Driver” who ends up blowing up the class.
But I had fun there. I also learned the beginnings of a skill. And then after 6/7 years of professional rejection and writing a lot of speculative scripts, making low-budget films, breaks started coming my way, and I actually made it into the film business with some success. In fact, much to my Father’s inability to think it possible, I actually started to make a living at this film thing.
I think a point to be made of this experience is no matter how dark it gets early, don’t get too down on yourself. You have ~ you may not know them ~ hidden talents, skills, passions. You simply cannot recognize it yet. So listen to the wind. The answer might be blowing right past you... But although I now had a degree and some success, I didn’t really have an education. Learning a trade is not a complete experience. I was a partly educated writer-director who’d never really studied with any rigor history, mathematics, English, science. All I had was curiosity, and thank god for that.
Please don’t ever forget that Edward Snowden was 29 years old when he challenged this system on behalf of us all ~ just a few years older than you.
He’s an avatar for your generation. Do not be cynical and say, ‘Privacy? So what? I have nothing to hide.’ Because when you’re older you might understand what you’re surrendering without knowing it is your greatest secret of all ~ yourself.
* Allen's note ~ See official trailer on Stone's SNOWDEN / Two minutes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QlSAiI3xMh4
And in closing, I’d suggest you take a year off and do nothing! Be a bum ~ or do something you’ve never done before. If you choose nothing, see for yourself if being a lazy person works for you or it bores you. Sit on a bench, walk around, fish. But go to the end of that feeling and find out for yourself. Be a janitor. Clean hotel rooms. Work with your hands. Learn how to plant, grow, cook. Travel to foreign countries second/third class and see how you relate to all kinds people and challenges. Above all, even if you want to make a fortune as quickly as you can, I urge you to break your pattern here and now, and don’t do what you did for 4 years.
So, go in peace, love justice and mercy ~ and do well by this world. Thank you."
See full text / http://readersupportednews.org/opinion2/277-75/36976-focus-my-commencement-speech-to-the-graduating-class-of-the-university-of-connecticut
In other words, find your passion and live it with joy, intention and purpose and in the process make a difference ~ that in itself sums up the ultimate commencement address as well as offers us the perfect epitaph for a life well spent.
Allen L Roland, PhD
Heart centered spiritual consultant and advisor Allen L Roland can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org Allen is also a lecturer and writer who shares a weekly political and social commentary on his web log and website allenroland.com. He is also featured columnist on Veterans Today and is a featured guest on many radio and Television programs.
Thursday, May 19, 2016
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John Bradshaw, a pioneer in the self-healing movement and author of Reclaiming and Healing your Inner child was an important and underrated compass in the field of humanistic psychology. Bradshaw correctly maintained that our ultimate home coming was reclaiming a lost and alone child within ourselves and set the stage for my work in reclaiming the soul of that lost child by jump starting their hearts through gratefulness and forgiveness: Allen L Roland, PhD
"Being abandoned through the neglect of our developmental dependency needs is the major factor in becoming an adult child. We grow up; we look like adults. We walk and talk like adults, but beneath the surface is a little child who feels empty and needy, a child whose needs are insatiable because he has a child’s needs in an adult body. This insatiable child is the core of all compulsive/addictive behavior.”
~ John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You
~ John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You
Only William Grimes, New York Times, chose to publicly mark the Death of Self-Help Evangelist John Bradshaw on May 12, 2016 ~~
"John Bradshaw, whose ideas about family dysfunction and the damaged “inner child” concealed within most adults made him one of the most popular and influential self-help evangelists of the 1990s, died on Sunday in Houston. He was 82.
The cause was heart failure, his son, John Jr., said.
Mr. Bradshaw drew on his unhappy childhood as the son of an alcoholic father, his own drinking problems and his work as a counselor to develop a set of explanations for myriad psychological ills.